The trouble with trying to own, or control anything (or anyone) is that by standing guard, to restrict others liberties, and guard your 'stuff'
You thereby, severely impinge upon your own freedoms..... Give others their liberty, in order that you might find your own way.
Less attached to things, and outcomes.
As you free yourself from this mental slavery, you in turn free others. from theirs.
Trust your own self to know what is the correct path for you.